Being Positive in the World of Expat Emotions

Isn’t it funny how things can align perfectly and happen at the exact time that you need them to?

I’ll be honest, I’ve been a pretty negative source of energy these past few weeks (and maybe even months) when it comes to my life living abroad. It is SO easy to focus on the negative. I miss my home country. My family. My friends. I don’t like ‘this’ or ‘that’ about my new home. I feel lonely. I feel fearful of the future…

We can completely forget to sit back and take the time to acknowledge all of the positive things that come from the expat experience.

I’ve struggled a lot these past few weeks as I go through all of the emotions that come hand-in-hand with moving your life across the world and I’ve been very unsure of how to cope with these feelings and what the next steps should be.

CUE:  May 16. The date that I’d scheduled a Tony Robbins Strategist to speak at one of my work events. Of course, as the Event Manager, I did my research and somewhat knew what to expect… But I never thought that I would feel this uplifted and empowered to take control of my life!

So, if you are living abroad – Please join me in screaming out-loud these amazing benefits that you are getting from the experience:


  • You get to experience another country and culture at the most intimate level.

  • You make friends from around the world and have places to stay in various countries whenever you visit.

  • You build an absolutely bad-ass international CV/Resume that shows flexibility, confidence and maturity.

  • You always have an interesting story to tell about your native country and are the ‘unique’ person in the room.

  • You push yourself to experience your new home abroad and fill your days with fun activities.

  • You inspire people back in your home country and feel special when you return.

  • You make it easy for people to approach you and start conversations as you are wonderfully different.

  • You learn to appreciate and treasure your own traditions, culture and identity.

  • You feel powerfully grateful to be lucky enough to have the relationships, friendships and family in your life that you could ‘miss’ this much!

  • You break your boundaries and force yourself to be outgoing and brave in your new surroundings.

  • You learn so much about yourself that you actually love the person that you are and can spend as much time alone as you want.

  • You laugh at how crazy and different human beings can be; from language to favourite foods.

  • You feel incredibly proud of yourself for jumping into the deep end and doing something that a lot of people would fear.

The Tony Robbins Peak Performance Strategist, Stephen Litman, explained to us that our emotions can easily hinder our experience in this life that we are given. Our brains are programmed and reprogrammed throughout our life to react differently to each task or experience that we come across. Whether it is dread when faced with a work task or passively going through the motions with little payoff or emotion at all. If we actively decide to condition our emotions to support us and our goals – Then the sky really is the limit.

Hence, FROM TODAY, I am going to look for the positive emotions within my expat experience and focus my energy and attitude towards them. I’m going to deeply reflect on the issues that are stopping me from finding happiness in my current situation, understand where they are coming from and take new empowered action.

I’m going to be patient. I’m going to take my time to enjoy the ‘living abroad’ process and feel fulfilled every step of the way!

How about you?

What is the biggest thing that you want to achieve in your life right now and what’s holding you back?

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  • Reply
    May 16, 2018 at 3:07 pm

    Hi, thanks for this informative and uplifting post! I’ve heard about Tony Robbins before, but never really knew what his motivational strategies were. I’ll have to read more about his work–I love the shift to positive thinking!

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      Kate -
      May 17, 2018 at 12:11 pm

      You are welcome Dana!
      Once I got that hit of positivity, I just had to spread it around… Definitely do. He also has his documentary on Netflix which is good too!

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    Katie McCarthy
    May 16, 2018 at 7:09 pm

    Such a wonderful read! I’ve never been abroad but I can definitely relate to what you got out of the seminar!

    I have a family friend who just moved abroad with 2 toddlers, and has been struggling. I passed this along to her! 🙂

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      Kate -
      May 17, 2018 at 12:29 pm

      Hi Katie! Thanks a lot – I’m glad you could relate, shifting your mindset in this way can really be applied to any area of life! Yes, definitely pass this on to your friend (where is she headed?) I’d love for her to get some support here on THW xox

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    May 17, 2018 at 7:41 am

    Being expat is a longtime learning!

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    DD's blog
    May 17, 2018 at 8:35 am

    Great topic, it was my pleasure to read this post. Always spread the positive energy around you. 🙂

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    Sreya Gupta
    May 17, 2018 at 1:19 pm

    Your post is so positive. I agree nothing can be better than knowing people and their culture. I really need to pack my bag and go somewhere. I haven’t went anywhere since 2016.

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    Kamapala Chukwuka
    May 17, 2018 at 5:16 pm

    Yes to this post! Focusing on the positives always makes any situation better and even enjoyable. I love Tony Robbins! I have great respect and admiration for expats and I think these positives will be great for any expat to focus on. I especially love – You feel powerfully grateful to be lucky enough to have the relationships, friendships and family in your life that you could ‘miss’ this much!. Beautifully written post. Thanks

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      Kate -
      May 23, 2018 at 4:51 pm

      SO glad you enjoyed it Kamapala – That is probably my favourite (and most used) one too! Becoming an expat is such an admirable thing and it’s so easy to forget it…

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